Loneliness -The Sense of Belonging



You can love God and yet feel lonely inside. You can be married and yet feel very much isolated. You can be part of a group of people and feel like you are the odd one out. You can be part of a large family and yet you don’t fit in. You can go to work and struggle to feel part of the team. Your smile can be seen from all around and yet inside you are longing to feel like you belong.

Before we go any further, you need to realize that the people of God are different to the people of the world. We see things differently, we hear things differently. What is normal in the ways of the world is not necessarily normal for a believer in Christ. Our perception is different. When we became Christians, we became very different creatures. Because we are a totally new creation. The closer our relationship is with God, the stranger the world will perceive us. 

1 Peter 2:9

But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.

You Can Be Surrounded With People And Yet Feel Totally Alone


James 5:13

Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing praise.

Psalm 25:16

Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.

Fact 1

  • Nearly Everyone Has Seasons of Loneliness 




Loneliness is a season. Like every other emotion that humans beings encounter. You will have times when you feel fulfilled and complete socially and times when you don’t. It is a normal human experience. So do not despair during these times. 

Ecclesiastes 3:1

For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:

Fact 2

  • Continual Loneliness is Usually A Choice


When you feel that there is an area in your life where you are lonely, there is nothing stopping you from finding fulfillment elsewhere. If you feel lonely in your marriage, family or work, then why not spend some appropriate time with some of your brothers or sisters in Christ socially. Have a prayer meeting. Catch up for a cuppa. Have a meal together. You will find that this very quickly will help you fill the gap. It does however take effort on your part. You will find that this will not only bless you, but also the people you are socializing with. 

Hebrews 10:25

Not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.

Fact 3

  • If the Loneliness That you Feel is Left to Fester, It Can Lead to Depression


Depression is a very real phenomenon. You only have to read the Book of Job and the Psalms to see that even the men in the bible where not immune to it. Loneliness that has been given permission to move in will turn into it. Once loneliness has been allowed to turn into depression it takes on a new form. A stronger root. So really it is better to deal with loneliness early and take control of it.

Psalm 9:9

The Lord is a stronghold for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.

Fact 4

  • Satan Wants you To Feel Isolated and Depressed


The enemy of God wants you to feel isolated, wants you to feel depressed. Because when you feel these things you are weakened. So in fact, by letting these things take hold in your life, you are allowing yourself to be robbed. You are letting the lies of the enemy fill your mind and affect your perceived value as a Child of God. 

John 10:10

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.

James 4:7

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.


God is faithful to His people. If you are going through a season of loneliness and you are seeking God in the midst of it (praying), there will be doors opening around you. You may need to reach out. Make some social changes. Join a women’s/ men’s group. Pick up the phone and arrange a catch up with a friend. It takes action on your part to change the pattern. If you are not attending a church, then I highly recommend that you do. Reach out to others in your times of need. Humble yourselves. It is ok to admit you are human after all. 

Be blessed and know that God loves you. 


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