Conflict With Another Christian- Do Everything In Love


Conflict is something that most people are uncomfortable with. When something goes wrong in any relationship, it can be  a lot easier to overlook the issue and bear a grudge than deal with it and move on.

But how can you have an honest and strong relationship with any one if you wont address matters as they arise. Not just confronting the issues as they emerge but also attempting to deal with them once and for all (in love of course).

Christian Church leaders, husbands, wives, friends, everyone etc, all have an obligation to one another to ensure that if someone has sinned against them, that the issue is brought forward and negotiated. If not, then you are leaving the door wide open for ungodly influence to come in like a flood to stir up strife within their hearts. If things are left unresolved then it is easy to hold a grudge and feel animosity, which in turn affects your ability to serve God effectively.


We Live In A Disposable Society

It is Easier To End a Relationship Than To Fix it

James 1:20

For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.


Many Christians Will  Lie To Avoid Confronting Their Dissapointment

Eg. What’s Wrong – Nothing

“What’s Wrong”  Is The Door Opening For Hopeful Restoration In A Situation

Answering “Nothing” Is The Door Closing

If you have an Issue with someone then the word “Nothing” is also a lie.

God really doesn’t like His people lying and yet, I have seen it time and time again falling out of the mouths of Christians. Lying as a defense mechanism to avoid dealing with an issue, is still lying. 

Conflict With A Fellow Christian – Steps To Deal With


Matthew 18:15-17

Step One – Go To Your Brother or Sister Personally

15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother.

Step Two – If That Doesn’t Work Then Take A Couple of People With You and Try Again

16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses.

Step Three – If That Doesn’t Work Then Tell it To the Church and if He/She Wont Listen to Them Then Count Them As Unsaved. A Neighbor Rather Than a Brother/Sister.

17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector (an unsaved person).
As you can see, to deal with an issue that arises with another believer you must address it and not just ignore it. If however you get to step three with no positive outcome, the brother or sister is not to be treated badly. They are to be loved. For it is only the love of God that will help that person to mature in the ways of the Kingdom.

Remember that Jesus loves the Gentiles and the Tax Collectors. We were once Gentiles ourselves.

1 Corinthians 16:14

Let all that you do be done in love.

Regardless of whether the relationship is able to restored, please never forget that the other person is still a child of God. What you say to others about them, will have an impact on their own self worth. You may become a stumbling block for that person. We do not have a right to be judge, jury and executioner. You have the power of life or death with your tongue. The way you choose to deal with the situation will reveal just where you are with your own relationship with God.


Proverbs 18:21
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.


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